Others dread change. They avoid updating their iPhones because they’re afraid Apple will purposefully and maliciously ruin their lives with change (you know who you are!)
And then there’s those of us who fall somewhere in the middle. We love it, we hate it. It depends on our mood and the type of change.
After all, some change is easy. “Congratulations! You won the lottery!!” And some change is hard. “Don’t come into work on Monday.”
Maybe you’re at a point in your life where you’ve hit a crossroads. You’re choosing to step out and make a big change. Or maybe you’re still tiptoeing around the idea (don’t worry, that’s normal).
Change doesn’t have to be so scary. Sometimes seeking out change instead of waiting for change to find you has its advantages. Here are eight things you’ll probably experience when you take the leap and dive into a big life change.
1. You’ll Feel an Instant Rush
Diving into change is a crazy rush you only experience when you go against the odds and bet on yourself. Finally, you’re taking control of your life and stepping out to change it for the better! The feelings and emotions you experience when taking the plunge will make you feel more alive and full of life than you’ve felt in a while.
Enjoy the rush of the moment. Live it up and let it soak in. Because the rush is just what you need to get started before the real work kicks in. There’s a good chance in a short while…
2. You’ll Panic
After the rush wears off, there’s a good chance you’ll experience a period of panic. After all, you’re in the deep end of the pool now and your baby floaters just don’t cut it anymore. Everything in you will want to swim to shore where there’s firm ground under your feet again. After all, change and high waters are scary! It’s different. It’s unfamiliar. And suddenly it got super lonely out here.
This is a completely normal feeling. Ride it out and understand it’s part of the process. Avoid the urge to run back to the comfortable place you came from. This is part of the journey. Learn to get comfortable despite it.
3. You’ll Start “Doing”
After you get over the initial panic, there’s work to be done. If you survive the panic and are still afloat, you’re stronger and than most deep end swimmers who give up early. Congratulations! You’re already ahead of the pack! Now, let’s get to work.
You are here to make a big life change remember? Let’s break it down into manageable steps to get you there. You can’t look at the end goal and assume you’ll magically appear at the end without a plan. Start with manageable goals you can do today or this week. And watch as you start swimming and moving closer to your goal. Change doesn’t happen over night, but it does happen by starting somewhere.
4. You’ll Feel Pride and Accomplishment
Once you start doing the work, you may be shocked at your own results. After all, if you take a moment to look at where you’ve come from, 1) you took a risk and jumped into unfamiliar waters, 2) you survived sheer panic, 3) you started the hard work of “doing,” and 4) you’re beginning to notice results. That’s pretty amazing!
Celebrate the small wins along the journey. These are the markers set to remind you you’re doing a great job and to keep going. Watch for these markers and celebrate them. Because there will come a day when perhaps…
5. You’ll Experience Failure
Hey, you can’t be perfect at everything. You’re trying something totally new, remember? So there’s a good chance you’ll experience both success and failure. Failure can either make you stronger, or it can send you into a tailspin and face the panic whirlpool all over again. This panic may make you want to throw in the towel and give up.
Do. Not. Give. Up.
Failure is normal and it’s not a bad thing. If you’re not failing at something in your life, you’re probably not doing enough. Just know you’re going to be ok. You’ll get through these rough waters, you’ll learn from it, and you’ll be better for it.
6. You’ll Need A Crew
As you ride the wave of jumping in and experiencing panic, success, and failure – you’ll need to find a group of people on a similar journey. You can’t truly be successful without a community of like-minded people to help each other out.
As great as your friends and family are, if you’re jumping out and trying something totally new, they may not fully understand. In fact, it may make them feel uncomfortable that you’re changing and they may try to pull you back. This is common so pay attention to this. People like their comfort zones. When you suddenly decide to make changes to improve your life, people get uncomfortable fast.
7. You’ll Fear Success
As you keep conquering and beating the odds, you’ll find yourself starting to fear success. It sounds ridiculous, but it’s true. You’ll battle feelings of inadequacy, the reality of what change would mean for your life, and you may find yourself contributing to your own failure.
Just know, it’s a phenomenon even the best, most successful people face. Success can be just as scary as it is wonderful. Guard yourself against self-sabotage and rely on your community because before you know it…
8. You’ll Succeed
Grab a friend and a taco and celebrate because you just made a HUGE change and you won! Some changes may take longer than others, but if you ride it out and keep swimming you’ll succeed. Wave the celebration flag and enjoy the heck out of this moment. Celebrate your successes on the journey whether large or small. It makes life more exciting and reminds you to be thankful as you celebrate the milestones along the way.
Each change you conquer makes you realize change might not be so scary after all. You rode the wave and discovered just how strong and capable you are. Though some changes are more difficult than others, you have what it takes. You bet on yourself and you did it!
Have you been tiptoeing around making a life change? What’s holding you back?